How often have you been faced to the situation when a beloved one suddenly disappeared, distanced or just retired into his/her shell? What causes this behavior? Is it possible to improve the situation? I'm going to raise these and other issues in the article.

Women vs. Men

It's usually considered that a woman is responsible for maintaining of relationship. What do you think, dear ladies?

I can already hear a chorus of voices: "Nonsense! Both are responsible", "It's true. We are more sensitive, we have better-developed intuition, so the responsibility for relations is laying on us", "I do not think so"...

It's only fair to say that starting from the time of primitive society our dear sister was more than once charged with a long list of responsibilities that she had to comply in relation to men, children and society. And where are WE here – among all of this, ladies? That's right, somewhere there:)

Men are considered to be a strong, decisive, and therefore they are charged no less with responsibilities, and additionally with women expectations that – let's be honest, sisters, – we all have. And often it seems that among all these responsibilities and expectations a man by himself is lost – here's he and like there's no him – just his dues are seen: whom, how and when he's obliged. You are familiar with it, right, gentlemen?:)

So, when we all together have expressed our indignation, and at the same time seen the absurdity of the situation, I propose to look at it from a slightly different point.

Responsibilities are a natural part of our life, aren't they? We can't run away from our responsibilities, and even do not need it in fact. As by performing the duties you make your own life much better: by execution of responsibilities at work you get money; implementation of household tasks (laundry, cleaning, washing dishes, etc.) makes your life more comfortable; performance of marital duty brings you... ohh, there may be a long fantasy time here, but now we are not talking about that:) As you can see, the duties – it's not something that you are due to someone, but what you do mostly for yourself and then – for others – to establish common comfortable conditions for cooperation in different spheres of life. You do something for people, and they do something for you in reply. It's simple.

However, sometimes you do not want to do something even for yourself. You just want to relax, hang out with friends, instead of boring cleaning or spending time with even a very beloved person – in other words, to go away into your private space, where there is only you and your DESIRES.

That's it – private space – we will talk about.

When a Man distances

Perhaps, many of you, dear ladies and gentlemen, have heard about such a wonderful book, as "Men Are From Mars, Women are from Venus," written by John Grey, the American psychologist. He introduced the concept of "man's leave for the cave" – and expressed by that a need of a man from time to time to go away into his own space.

So how it works?

It is well known that man's and woman's reactions on events are quiet different. For example, a man in relationship tends to distance from time to time – to go with friends to a bar, fishing, or even into himself. What for does he need it?

• To overcome the inner stress (problems at work, just a bad mood);
• When your relationship are "too much" and he feels that he loses himself in them, loses his own independence;
• To fulfill the inner male energy content – it's obvious that men company fits this purpose much better.

Lovely sisters, at this stage I want to ask you specifically not to think much about the reason – why our dear men necessarily have to move away to manage stress, replenish energy and other things. Just accept it as a fact – that's their nature, and they do not do anything bad. Second – it's not your fault, ladies. It is not anyone's fault, and not lack of love, this is just nature – like the same as day and night existence. As after a night, a morning comes so as a man moves away for a while, fills everything that needs to be filled, and comes back. If he doesn't come back for a long time – it seems you overwhelmed him:), didn't let go from yourself.

The behavior of men in relationship is like a rubber band: as soon as he starts to feel a desire to move away, the band tightens – a man distances (physically or just emotionally), and after he enjoyed to the full his private space, he returns – so as a rubber band returns after stretch to the primary position – to you, ladies:)

What will happen if a man stops to go away to his private space sometimes?

• He'll loose himself and you as well because he won't be interesting anymore for you and for himself too.
• His inner tension will increase because of stresses, problems and he will start to throw it at you because of the lack of private space – and do you need it, ladies?
• A rubber band will be broken – a man will just go from the place, where it tends to keep him on a short leash.

I think it's clear now, ladies, that it's necessary to give a man the private space. And how you should behave when a man goes to the "cave"?

• First, relax and do not panic. Thank him for leaving – by doing this he also gives you the opportunity to be alone, finally, and do whatever you like, not that is necessary for the relationship.
• Do not try to figure out what is on his mind and heart. Be tactful – just leave him alone. Let him think, rest – and everything will be worked out. Remember: just we, dear sisters, overcome stress by talking. Men usually go away into their "cave". Got it?:)
• Do not "punish" him during his leaving and after his return from the "cave". Do no knit the brows or show by your voice tone that you are not satisfied. In general, the emotional punishment – when you deprive a man of your Love – is the worst thing for him. So do not manipulate it for your advantage. Be gentle and respectful to the beloved one. Remember about his right on freedom. In the opposite case – re-read the information above – what will happen if a man stops periodically go to the "cave". The choice, dear ladies, is up to you.

When a Woman distances

Woman distance is a bad signal in fact, dear gentlemen. If in your case, distance – is only the way to restore yourself, it's your nature; in the case of a woman it's a bit different.

Love language of a man and a woman – what is it? It's well known that in the dictionary of a man "Love" means "trust". What is a "trust"? It means – I give complete freedom, let go, believe that you will manage / will be a good girl etc. In the dictionary of a woman "Love" means "care", i.e. I wonder how things about you are going, I call you 10 times a day, give you my attention – in other words I'm constantly present next to you.

Obviously, Love language of men and women is not just different, but in some sense it's opposite:) And notice, that everyone aims to give Love in the form, in the language which is close to him/her – women want always to be around, do not let go; men – on the contrary, – to give freedom and let go.

And in fact, dear gentlemen, the thing is that a woman saw your trust – how you understand it – in some place in white slippers:) Your attention to her, your caring – is the language that she understands. The same thing I want to say to you, my lovely sisters: caring (in the meaning above) – is a good thing, but your man is not a little child, so give him, finally, a chance to spend some time without you.

But let's come back to a woman and her space. So, if a woman distances from a man, there can be actually 3 reasons for that:

• When she feels that you do not understand her: just everything – her emotions and thoughts. She tries to tell you something – and it seems you do not understand what she wants. Sometimes, though, it may happen that a woman does not understand herself enough in this period as well. And it happens when the relationship developed too fast for a woman, she did not have time to enter them properly – for example, if before your relationship with her she had other ones and didn't have time to complete them correctly. Then inner tension will increase in her till will go out – and not in its best look. And both of you are not guilty in that. Just everything should be in time, and it's necessary to give a woman opportunity to balance her inner opposites, to get over a tension.
• If you hurt her, and she doesn't want the repetition of the situation.
• If she's disappointed – by your action or relationship in general. Here, incidentally, you can put her reaction on your leave to the "cave". In the last case, of course, there's no your fault, dear gentlemen. However, there is your responsibility – to explain correctly your woman what is going on: you do not break with her, do not love less, just want to spend some time being lonely or with friends. And it's important to tell her that there's no her fault here cause distance on a woman language means "I didn't understand him", "I hurt", "I disappointed". Take it into account, please, dear men:)

Additionally sometimes but much more rarely a woman can distance as well to restore inner strength, to fill the feminine energy – i.e. to follow a man's example. But it happens mostly when a woman is engaged in esoteric practice, when her spirituality reflects on work so it's important for her to be always "in shape":)

If a man acts in relationship as a rubber band then a woman's behavior reminds a wave – up and down. And it is her nature, dear gentlemen. So that do not be indignant at "wavy" mood of your lady, her "excessive" emotionality. A real woman is like mercury: always moving, always changing. And it differs her from a man. In this way she draws energies from the Space to transmit them to you – for realization of your godlike purposes:)

And as the end...

Love each other, ladies and gentlemen! Trust, care and give each other private space.

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Sincerely Yours,
Artemis Delia,
The Love and Joy Psychic
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